In the past couple of weeks have you felt sluggish, irritable, moody, or extremely insecure? Have past and present issues surrounding love been popping up? On March 4th Venus, ruler of love and emotions, went into retrograde. If you follow my blog you'll know that I often blog about being effected when Mercury goes retrograde. Venus rules all manner and matters of love. Self worth, esteem, creative talents, art beauty of self and our surroundings. She also rules over finance and abundance.
Now just like all retrogrades now is a time to make room in our lives and hearts for more love and abundance.
Set the standards higher and don't settle for anything less. At this time we may feel ourselves being extra critical but through this we can gain deep insight as to what we really want. At this time we may find ourselves looking into the past. Judging, regretting or feeling upset over what has been. Remember this doesn't serve anyone any good. But what you can do is look at the past gain wisdom from the situations, and move forward to a new beginning.
Don't fret if the love bug is on your mind. Venus will stir up some lusty or even lovey dovey vibes. Venus has a very impulsive and passionate nature. You may feel fate drawing you to someone and changing your immediate course at present time. Keep in mind what you truly want from her and try to see the difference between lust and love(like). These new love interest will hold a very unique and significant impact on our lives.
Here's the kicker. If you are feeling the effects of insecurity during this retrograde then now is not the time to make rash relationship decisions.
It is time to take yourself into consideration. Nurture yourself and give yourself some much needed love. Treat yourself as the goddess you truly are. You need not look outside yourself to feel wanted, accepted or desired.
I've been feeling with a lot of emotions lately. Mainly surrounding my self worth in relationships and even in my business goals. Wondering if I should bite the preverbal bullet and give up on all accounts. I kept telling myself that I was taking a much needed break,. I kept procrastinating on almost everything that has brought me joy. When your self worth is compromised you start to make excuses. You slowly deteriorate and become uninspired. It was at the start of this retrograde that I finally threw my hands up and yelled, "enough"!
I decided I needed to make a choice, I could give up or I could get up and keep trying.
Well I absolutely despise the thought of giving up. Almost to a fault. So I got my shit together, made some lists, burned some intentions and got back into the saddle. I know that I need to walk my walk and talk my talk. Even if you start off slowly, take breaks, have mini meltdowns, just keep going. Your journey is so important to your well being.
Things to look out for during Venus Retrograde:
Reality vs. Expectations
I recently have had an experience where I was unable to coach someone. And if any of you know life coaches/healers, this is one of the most frustrating situations to come across. The hardest part of all there was nothing that I could have done. I wasn't able to coach this person because of my lack of experience or education. I was unable to coach this person because of their lack of wanting to help themselves. But through this situation I found my self learning a couple of big lessons., I can't help everyone nor does everyone want to be helped.
You see this particular person has set up a wide variety of expectations for themselves. Expectations that are not necessarily unattainable but expectations that they thought that they were just going to have handed to them. The issue with this is when we set up expectations but are unprepared for the reality we find ourselves loosing all sense of control. Not that we have control over anything really, just our actions. Expectations really aren't a bad thing to have as long as you keep them within reason and don't get to worked up when they don't go according to plan.
Are we being the victim in our lives?
One thing that is absolutely certain we will always have to go through struggles, obstacles and tons of tough choices. That is what makes us able to call our selves humans. We have the capability to learn through our actions. Every day you will face bumps in the road. From things as small as technology issues to life changing events. The most important thing to remember when we go through these moments is how we react as it is happening.
Being the Aquarian that I am, I tend to have moments of dramatic drama followed by swift action and follow through. I give myself a couple of hours max to play the victim. Then, usually with a friends help, I figure a way out the problem. Thus turning the problem into a solution. This has helped me survive even some of my toughest life changing moments.
Everyone reacts to problems differently. Some people are not effected by trouble or bad days. My father for example is one of those people who can face an issue head on without a second thought. He is the one that has shown me to see the opportunities and solutions within problems, even if I'm super stubborn at times. There are some situations that we have absolutely no control over. These situations come through our lives like a hurricane. We have no way to prepare for them and they can cause us to fall apart. I myself have had several of these happen during my life.
There are those that enjoy playing the role of victim. They enjoy the feeling of being saved, getting the attention, and always having an issue to be fixed. you'll often hear them say things such as; "Why do things always happen to me?", "I have the worst luck.", "Things never go my way.". These type of people take a lot longer to go through obstacles because they always feel as if the world is out to get them, We all have played this part at some point in our lives. But for some they play that role their entire life. Remember growth and healing come from going through major moments, life change events and struggling situations. Push through, learn from it and move forward.
I had to take a step back and allow that I can't help everyone. Letting this person release what needed to be released and let it stop at that. I learned that not everyone wants to help themselves. But what I was taught was to look at what this person reflected to me. Everyone is a mirror for each other. We reflect back that which we need to see in ourselves. What was it about this person made me feel incompetent, frustrated and upset?
Yesterday I had a major transformational Saturday. I started my day off with an activated charcoal-lavender lemonade and a Yin Yoga class. My first yin class ever! The practice is slower and focuses on releasing tension in not only the muscles but also the connective tissues. It also opens up your heart chakra and man was I feeling it. My friend and I left class and met our friend in the shop next door. We spent the next couple of hours chatting about letting go, the past, spiritual guidance, readings and more. By the time i got home I was exhausted and spiritually full. I was so blissed out that I passed out around 9pm. I woke up around 6am sobbing with all sorts of emotions, feeling such a wonderful release. I felt as if I had healed so many parts of my heart in one small moment. It was beautiful.
Remember we all have the ability to over come our obstacles. We have all come far in everything we've encountered in our past. Don't dwell on the past it will only haunt you. Instead use your past to strengthen your future. You've got this!
I have been holding out for so long. Clenching my tongue against my teeth in order to keep the status quo flowing. I am one of those easy going chicks that likes to speak her mind but also likes to keep the peace. That was until this past year. I have finally become fed up with keeping quiet. With everything going on in our world now is not the time to be silent. People are losing rights, dying, fighting, vandalizing. There are riots in our streets and our energy is being reverberated across the globe. This weekend almost 3million women marched to stand up for our rights as women. I feel awed and inspired by these women. As I have been my whole life. I always enjoyed reading about women who fought to be heard. Now it's our time!
All joking and expectations aside, the reality is that we now have a celebrity as a president. I have had my issues with this long before our election but if I must I must. The truth is no matter how I feel, and I feel pretty strongly, he is now sitting in that chair for the next four years.. So as an American I look at it as accepting you to show me what you can do. But as a woman, a fighter, a lover, a peaceful warrior, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a person with a voice...get ready to hear me roar.
Ladies now is the time to stand up, now is the time to show the country what we are made of. Start standing up for yourself. Start showing the people who put you down that you are ready to fight. Look back throughout history, look back at all the women who have fought for us. Everything came at a price. We wouldn't have gained so much without great loss. This is our chance to award ourselves another monuments moment in history. Look at all we have accomplished just in the last five years. Keep going! Imagine what we can accomplish in the next five!
Now is the time to start letting your roar out. You want something go for it. You deserve that promotion, you deserve the career change, the business ownership, the motherhood, the wife, friend, activist and any other title you want to test to you name. The road a head is going to be hard with many, many obstacles and challenges along the way. But nothing dreamt ever came easy, so get ready to fight. Put on your armor, you're strong enough, and step out the door. There are many who are waiting for your voice. Help others and share in the hope that together we can achieve anything. Stand up for those who can not stand up for themselves. And most importantly, don't ever let anyone tell you that you are anything less than amazing.
Love and Hugs!
Happy Monday everyone!
I write this post through water filled eyes. I am not crying because I am sad, in fact I am crying for just the opposite. With everything that has happened the past few days the entire world is up in arms. It seems as if everywhere I turn hatred is being spread so thickly it seems as if it will never clean up. Tonight I as was scrolling through my Fb feed I came across a beautiful video about a man and his wife. He was telling the nurse how much he loved his wife and that they had been together for 70 years. He went on to talk about how he didn't want to waste time with his heart condition, his wife was in stage one of Alzheimers and he wanted to spend every moment he could with her. He said that he was incredibly grateful to have this woman in his life and he needed to be there for her while she slowly gave way to the disease. Can we say oceans pouring from my eyes? Goodness gracious.
This was immediately followed by yet another amazing video. Oh my heart! The next one I watched was a 6min clip filled with all the ways humanity has shown love. Kids being kind to those less fortunate, adults helping one another, sacrifices and paying it forward. By the end of these two videos I just let my tears fall down my cheeks. It showed me that there are amazingly kind acts people do every second of the day. When we focus on all the bad things people do it is as if we put blinders on our hearts. Good is out there, love is out there. We must all do our part to help spread more love.
I know it's hard. I completely understand how easy it can be pointing out every little thing that went wrong in one day. I completely empathize with wanting to place blame and point the finger. I live and work in one of the most judgmental and entitled city atmospheres. Well for a few more months any way. But we mustn't let the misery of others drag us down. I know it can be hard in the moment, but try at some point to see things from the other person's view. Maybe it's the way they were brought up, maybe they hate their lives and just don't care anymore, and maybe they sadly are just shallow people. I promise you they aren't everyone.
For the next few days I am going to take into account every time someone pays it forward, compliments me, or I witness an act of love. I want to start focusing on the good in people again. I want to show others that love is a powerful force. If we all just show a little bit of love towards others whole new doors open up.
Love and hugs everyone!
P.s. Hate is easy, veto takes courage. Are you brave enough?
Being stuck and starting over multiple times
Have you ever felt as if you are always starting over? Do you ponder the thought that you just have bad luck? I get it. I have often thought that my self. One of my favorite sections to browse through has always been the "self-help" area. I have always been inspired by others that have gone through similar situations. When I was in my twenties I felt as if I loved in that section of the book store. I felt as if the world was out to get me every time I placed my foot out the door. It was as if I couldn't get a grasp on my life. If it wasn't my relationships it was my job, if it wasn't school it was friends, so on and so forth. So what changed? When did I get to a point where getting myself out of the woods wasn't as hard as I thought?
When things go haywire we feel as if we are lost in the deepest, darkest parts of the forest. I can remember the a ha moment when I gave my self permission to start over multiple times. I was turning 30 and leaving my young adult hood behind. I remember thinking of how different I was going to be and how much growth I was going to have. Even if it was overnight. Let me tell you, I was sooooooo wrong. So far the past three years of my 30's has been a rollercoaster ride of holy shit. The only difference is my reactions and attitudes have gotten more chill.
I realized the past few years that I was always going to have times where I am going to be "stuck", in my life. I decided that it was all part of building new chapters in my life. Being stuck just means we have come to a turning point in our lives. I can look back the past 12 years and see every single time I was "stuck" something amazing came afterwards. The more times you are stuck the more times you are growing. It is a time of planning, releasing, and growth. It is a time to move forward and show yourself how strong you are. It is the chance to be your own hero. Progress does not come easy. To get to where you are going you will always have obstacles in your way. You will always have a period of time where you feel completely hopeless. It is hard to keep your faith when your heart is broken, you have no money or you don't want to be where you are. But it is at these very moments we can find the most clarity.
You are a warrior!
When we are at our low points we often have the chance to work through the bs of our behaviors and actions. Being able to hold our selfs accountable takes great strength. It takes a lot of courage to push through and begin anew. Look back on all the times you thought you wouldn't make it and see how far you have come. Being a warrior doesn't mean you don't cry or you don't have a heart. In fact it is just the opposite. Some of the strongest people in history have fought battles with tears in their eyes. I look at struggles as opportunities to prove to myself that I can make it through the storm. I may fall a part, I may cuss and scream, but I won't back down from a chance to show my worth. I know that my Goddess shows me challenges so that I can gain another step on my path.
When you feel stuck spend some time assessing the situation. Work through the painful emotions and honor how you feel. Don't feel guilty for eating that ice cream and watching yet another chick flick on netflix. It is a process. Remember it is not a bad life just a bad day, (month, week, etc). The important thing is that we must always be grateful for the things that we do have. Air, shelter, food, friends, family,, our bodies, our hearts, etc. Don't worry if someone tells you to get over something. Don't listen to someone if they are passing judgement on what job you have. If it is paying your bills and affording you to reach for you goals...get it! You have to do what you need to, so that you can survive and grow.
Overtime you will start to understand that starting over is one of the greatest things in the world. It is that second chance at a new perspective. It is a second chance at a new chapter in your life. look at it as a time to let go of something that no longer works for you and a chance to find the thing that does. You can make your life amazing with only a little bit of courage, kindness, and willingness to let go. Don't force yourself to move on, instead work through your struggle to come out the other side. Fight your way through the woods.
Ways to get through a "stuck" phase
Are you living or just getting by? Are you creating adventure in your life? What big adventures are you planning for 2017? Let me know in the comments below. 😊💖😊
The magic of this 30 something life
"Wild hearts can not be tamed, controlled, or ever really be broken. Wild hearts can only be made stronger, love harder and gain the confidence it needs to be free."
A few years ago if you were to ask where I thought I would be in my thirties, I would have never have thought It would be where I am today. When I was younger I always saw myself in two situations; I was either married or living an extremely extravagant single life. It really depended on the mood I was in when asked. I was also a wild hearted person, from a very young age I knew I was different. Never sticking to the norm or societies expectations. Not saying that it didn't give me grief for not fitting in, but it did give me strength in many more ways than one would think. So sitting here, almost 2weeks till I turn 33 and remebering one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite movies, "wild hearts can't be broken."
The meaning behind the quote is one of deep and powerful comitment of loving one's se;f. Being wild hearted is a long road of obstacles, heart break, success and great determination. Not saying that those who don't have wild hearts are weak, not at all. Wild hearts come in many shapes and sizes. Some join the circus while others travel the world tasting coffee. Having a wild heart is something that is completely unique to the individual. But more on that in a bit.
If you have been following my story the past year you noticed, just like many others, 2016 was a year of great loss and transformation for me. in the next couple of weeks I will be turning 33 and I am looking at it with great possibility. The begining of my thirties I almost always felt as if I were climbing up hill. I was always in some sort of struggle, either with my career, purpose, love life or just plain loving myself. The past few years I have dealt with a great deal of baggage, past issues and growth. All things that I can look back and now I finally see the benefit in going through all of these things. While 2016 felt as if it was just a basket of shit being carried around, dropping on us from above. With this new year we have to look back and see the positive outcomes that helped us push forward.
When looking back the first thing you must always remember, look at your past with kind and compassionate eyes. I myself have laid awake at 3am thinking of my past mistakes. Trust me it still happens. I mean who really cares about being what you did when you were 18. Does it really matter that you messed up? No. The only thing that matters is that you look at the situation, see the parts where you were at fault, and begin to forgive yourself. I have been selfish, spoiled, greedy and did some pretty unsavory things in my youth. But dwelling over our wrong doings will never get us anywhere. Instead we must look back and see what changes these actions caused. Look back be accountable and then forgive yourself as well as others.
The magic of being in your thirties is that you are able to move forward much faster. You start to realize that your life is your own. The views, opinions and judgement of others hurts less and heals fast. You are able to take solace in the lessons that are brought to you. One of the best things about learning from your mistakes is the fact that you can finally start to look back and see how far you have come. This finally leads me to being wild at heart and being comfortable in the life that I have.
As I said earlier, I have always had a wild heart. I was never really good at being told what to do, being controlled or someone trying to tame me. No matter how hard I tried, I never really fit in with any groups. And as much as I hate to admit it used to drive me crazy. I always wanted to try new things, be the first to impulsively jump, or yearning for the next adventure. Challenges never scared me, even if I cried I still will stand my ground. Wild hearts learn to love themselves through hardships and determination. But keep in mind that being a wild heart can also have it's set of self destructive side effects.
Sometimes wild hearts learn to buid walls, battle with ocd and can be controlling in nature. We often grow up very independent which can lead to wanting things to go our way. We must all learn to accept both our light and our dark sides. The good and bad qualities we have. That is just part of growing as a person. That is one of the best things about entering your thirties, you start to understand the purpose of your life. And always remember that a purpose, no matter how big our small, is still a purpose. So never let anyone make you feel less for your dreams. You have every right to be where you are, in what ever stage of life, and have your reasons why.
Things I love about my thirties:
<3 Being single
<3 Creating my personal space
<3 Gaining confidence I never knew I had
<3 Growing from lessons and mistakes
<3 Doing what I want, when I want, without the guilt
<3 Letting go of that which does not work for me
<3 Pushing through obstacles and staying positive after the outcome
<3 Seeing opportunities and grabbing them
<3 Knowing exactly what I want and making plans to achieve it
<3 Spending time with those that truly care for my wellbeing and progress
<3 Telling my loved ones how I feel
<3 Having lazy Sundays and sleep in Saturdays
<3 Being as lazy or productive as I want
<3 Creating a timeline that works for myself
<3 Living my life for myself
<3 Learning to love myself unconditionally
Retrograde is in an unique situation. It began December 19th and will end January 8th. Talk about starting wtih a new clean state. Mercury going in retrograde helps us to look inward, causing us some major transformation. It also effects things like communication, energy, rational thinking, transportation and technology. Has it felt as if poeple are going crazy? You can't complete sentences? How about feeling tired and irritable? Mercury in retograde sounds a lot like pms doesn't it.
But it doesn't have to be all bad. While retrograde can make you want to hibernate, this can be the universe telling you to take it easy. It can be a time to get some much needed rest and feel refreshed. This is also a time where we can take a step back and view our lives objectively. Are you living or just getting by? Are you headed in the direction of your dreams or are you passing time in fear? These are all great things to work on during retrograde. But remember be gentle with yourself. Don't compare, judge, or let your ego take over the show.
Easy ways to work through retrograde:
For many of us 2016 was a year of struggle, loss, change and major growth. We cried, got mad and separated from long term partners. We lost idols and important figures. We had a major election that will for ever be part of history, even if for many it was a political joke. But what did 2016 really show us? What did we learn? If we can look back what opportunities came from the BS we had to tread through.
2016 was a year of transformation. It was here to rid of the things that we no longer needed. It pushed us to the brink of our minds so that we might see how strong we really are. We were forced to let go, choose to forgive and picked the weapons we wanted to enter the battle with. I myself finally saw parts of me I had no longer believed were there. I found out what I was made of, how strong I am when fighting, and that I too can make it out alive.
We all must face hardships, we all must face change. Once we face our dark sides and learn to love it with as much respect as the light side, we find truth. If 2016 taught me anything it is the small fact that I was and can no longer chase perfection. I was chasing the perfect image of life, love and career. I wanted to have happiness in all the wrong ways. Thinking that if I only pushed my self harder, fought more aggressively and took more selfishly, I would eventually gain perfection. I was so wrong.
I lost a lot this past year. I'm not just talking about my relationship or jobs, but much more than that. I lost my need to be someone I really didn't want to be. I stopped living up to other's expectations. I am me and that's all I can ever be. I am dark, light, funny, wild, rebellious, silly, scared, strong, brave, and everything in between. I finally found the things I love about myself and I am working on everything I hate. I am trying to love the flaws, the scars and the baggage. They are all part of me, they are what brought me to where I am now. How could I ignore that?
What are some of the things that you learned from 2016? What are some of the ways you want to start 2017? I look into the new year as if I am finally transforming into the warrior woman I always wanted to be. Strong and confindent, filled with adventure and curriosity for life. Qualities that I've burried deep within myself can finally surface and help me face the next chapter in my life. Realizing that the only validation I seek needs to come from my own heart. What do you seek? What qualities do you have that are just waiting to come out and share with the world?
Set intentions not resolutions. Make changes not promises.
For this New Years I decided to do something different. I decided that I no longer wanted to set resolutions becuase they felt fake. We should be making resolutions all the time, not just when everyone else sets them. We should set goals and intentions for the coming year so that we can create action plans and comeplete are goals. We should vow and start to make changes. Becoming better human beings. Not make promises that never are kept.. Lying to ourselves and only coming up dissappointed. Doing nothing but feeding our own egos with tons of glorious self hatred. Instead set small goals, make the actions and create the change. Freeing yourself from the burden and pressure. Not to mention feeling amazing for accomplishing your tasks and goals.
This year I have some amazing new challanges I have set for myself. One major thing being the fact that I am moving out west. Moving to a completely different state. Talk about asking for an adventure and the universe ansering with a great big, "HERE YA GO". But I am ready. I know that obstacles and challenges will face me as the year goes on, but I also know that anything we want comes with a challange. These challenges show us if we;'re on the right track or not. So what are some challenges that you have to face in the new year?
Goals/Intentions for the New Years!
Last night my friend Madison, (a.k.a. Awakened Moon) and I headed over to Stone Moutnain National Park for some holiday festivities, This was her first time visiting the monument and what better way to show her the park then at Christmas time. We dressed up in our christmassy best, played holiday tunes and sang the whole way there. Both of us super excited to start having some holiday themed fun. We arrived at the park just in time to catch the last tram up to the top of the mountain. The sun was setting and the skyline was absolutely amazing with the colors. It was a great start to our evening.
Walking around the top of the mountain feels as if you're walking on another planet, the temperature helped with that feeling as well. We had just enough time to walk around, take some silly pictures and check out the different views. It was pretty fun to be one of the few walking around. Not having to deal with crowds or people running through our pictures we got some pretty cool shots. We even got our own tram on the way back down, impromptu photo shoot.
Night started to fall as we entered the christmas village. Lights covered every tree, building and people were rushing around full of christmas spirit. Madison and I included, although I think we had enough holiday spirit to fill the park itself. Dressed to the nines with christmas sweaters, earrins and newly purchased christmas light necklace. The festivities kicked off with a winter parade bringing in Santa and Mrs. Clause. The parade was so adorable and seeing all the kids gleaming at the characters made it even better.
The village had so many little sections, each filled with its own theme. The glass blower, Santa's workshop, Tree Trimming, Santa meet and greet, and tons of food. The one thing I was super excited about was the train ride. I remember taking it years ago and how cute it was, plus I absolutely adore trains. After a couple hours of shopping, wandering, eating and a quick hot chocolate stop, we made our way in line for the train. It was so much fun. The train takes you around the park stopping to watch christmas themed stories, plays and lights. While the train was moving the played christmas carols to which we sang every single one. I don't think I've laughed that hard in a long time.
The train ride was pretty chilly and by the end we were singing and dancing just to keep warm. It still felt amazing to feel the joy and cheer in the atmoshpere. Joking with strangers and even getting to bring a smile to a little girl in line. My heart was filled with pure joy as we made our way to the gates. One of my favorite parts of the night was getting lost on the way out of the park and having gps take us through a drive through snow flake light show. As always our adventures were a great sucess. Today we both joked about having a fun hangover and working from bed. I write this from my awesome popazan chair staring at my christmas tree. The music is playing and hot chocolate steaming. I look forward to my next christmas event tomorrow and saying lines from my favorite holiday movies.
"Magic comes to those who believe it exists."
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