Remember I was talking about how important it is to practice self care? Well I am super excited because I just found out my friend over at, Awakened Moon Yoga, is doing a 10 Day Self Care Challenge. I am so excited about this because let's face it, Mercury Retrograde seriously kicked my butt. So all this challenge requires is that you do one thing each day, for ten days, for yourself.
Read a book, take a bubble bath, take yourself on a date, doesn't matter what it is as long as it is something that benefits your wellbeing. Not very hard, and the benefits are unbelievable. So check out the challenge and her website. Don't forget to add her on Instagram too and use the hashtag #10daysofselfcare when posting your pictures of selfceare. Also, tag the both of us in your pictures. I will pick out some favorites and feature it on my blog. when the challenge is over.
I look forward to seeing your pictures. Have fun taking care of yourself.
In my last post I told you guys about how I was going through a tough time the past two weeks. Spending countless minutes battling with my ego and self esteem in one mix of a small melt down. It was like walking through the Swamps of Sadness (Never ending story reference). Fighting my way through the muck to find a direction and sign to move forward. That is how I describe getting through a depression spell. Working through the muck, sticks, and sadness. I did it, and with some help I was able to get back to the basics.
I woke up last Friday morning with a fire ignited in my gut and my heart filled with light and passion.
I decided to try out my old morning routine which got me started a few years ago. It was how I stayed happy and began my journey to where I am now. My routine; Wake up and before I put my feet on the ground, I say three things that I am grateful for. I follow this by saying good morning to my cats, plants and the sun, while boiling water for my tea. This is followed by 45-90min of hula hooping, dance and/or yoga. Once I get my energy up and mood lifted, I write in my journal and then prepare for my day. Let me just say, it was exactly what I needed. I felt free, alive and filled with purpose. The ideas started to flow and my mind was set at ease. By getting back on the proverbial horse I was able to get back to me. Go figure right? Let's be honest, if I talk the talk I must walk the walk, right? Well it was high time I started doing it again.
In the past few days I have paid closer attention to my heart. Listening to it, acknowledging what it wanted and nurturing what it really needed.
Your heart is a direct link to your spirit, true self, and your connection to the Divine, (The universe, God, or which ever you prefer). It wants you to go for what you love, crave and desire. My heart was practically screaming at me, yelling from the dark. I have tried to cover up my true desires and needs by pretending that they weren't "appropriate", or I would tell my self that I didn't have the time. It suddenly hit me that in the past few weeks I had been living contradictory to not only my beliefs but also my way of life.
I wasn't speaking my truth.
Another aspect of my life I was not focusing on was my spiritual practices. I have fallen off that train as well. But I am learning that life is a process, a journey, and I shouldn't get to hard on myself. I just had to get back up and pick back up. Read my books and blogs, practice yoga, and get back into my meditation. A couple of days ago I was scrolling through my Bloglovin' feed and came across a blog that read monthly horoscopes. Pretty cool, never really read a horoscope for more than a day before. So I scrolled down, searching for Aquarius and when I read the description I was baffled.
It was exactly what I was going through, even better it was mostly about finding my voice and my heart!
When we live, listening to our spirits and our hearts we are living like stars. Shining brightly for all to see. When you shine from within you are radiating confidence, happiness and empowerment. So let your light shine, listen to your heart and speak your truth.
~7 Things to know about your heart~
About last night...
I have spent several minutes focusing on how to write what I am about to write, so here it is...even I have rough times too. As someone who battles with depression and anxiety I understand what it is like not wanting to move forward or feeling as if the world is caving. This is how I got into this lifestyle, I wanted to help others because I understand what it's like to feel incredibly low and helpless. So what prompted this entry? You see for the past week or so I have been on the edge of what some call a depression spiral. By now I know the signs and try my best to work with them, but sadly sometimes it becomes to much. Yesterday was just that, I crashed. It began shortly after waking up and just accumulated over the day. I felt as if I had all this pressure coming at me and felt as if I didn't know where to turn. My brave boyfriend sat with me through the whole thing, he listened, consoled and held me through it all. I am truly grateful for his help and guiding me back to where I needed to be, telling me it would be ok, and it is.
While I would love to post about how great it was to have my boyfriend pull me out my hole, that is not what this entry is about. You see I woke up this morning and realized, I have forgotten to take care of myself. I have slacked on my routine, and slowly procrastinated on the things that help me from slipping. I never knew how easy it was to fall of the boat when you are helping others, but alas I did. But I noticed something this morning, maybe I was meant to go through this, maybe I was meant to feel super low to pick myself back up and move forward. I have looked back on the past several years and realized that every time I fell, had a spiral, melt down or got stuck, were all met with amazing results afterwards. I was once told, "An arrow can only be pulled back so far before it launches you into something great!". This means that when life is dragging you back be prepared for the launch into your next big thing. So stay focused and keep aiming towards your goal.
Releasing those negative emotions, feelings and thoughts
Negative emotions, feelings and thoughts, are something that happen to us all. Even the most enlightened can get annoyed or upset. It is one way that we release the dark matter inside of us. So don't dwell, you're just balancing out and letting go. Also, don't forget that we are only human and we are experiencing things so that we grow. It is hard to say that these are learned behaviors, but most of the time they are. We are shown from a young age things such as jealousy, competition and comparison. Plus, we also have those learned behaviors from the situations that we experience over time. For example, A girl who has been bullied about her weight will not only judge herself but will have negative reactions to a picture of a girl who is thought to be "perfect" by media standards. Someone who has been cheated on by a significant other would have negative reactions and jealousy issues. But this isn't just about our reaction to other people, there are also reactions to things going on inside of ourselves.
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves, times have taught us that we have to be great multi taskers, super humans and upstanding role models. We judge our worth by materialistic things, job positions, and money. Think about it, what is the most common questions at a party when meeting someone new? "What do you do?" Usually our first responses our what we do for a living or how we pay our bills. Most people font ask, what do you LIKE to do, what are your hobbies, dreams goals, etc. So when asked the question about what we do can lead us into those dreaded thoughts of judgement and self doubt. Unless of course you have your dream job, then by all means talk away. But for some that question can seem a tad bit annoying.
One of the biggest ways we dwell on negativity is by not feeling good enough. Our thoughts and mainly our egos, tell us that we are not capable to achieve things that we want. That is what happened last night which is why I wanted to blog about it today. I went through the seven layers of self hatred and by the time my boyfriend came home I was well on my way through the gates of personal hell. My ego and self doubt was in full force and I felt as if nothing I've done has meant a lick. I felt worthless, hated and unsuccessful. Then after a couple of hours we worked it out and he reminded me of who I was and how much I have achieved. He just kept saying, you are worth it, it's going to be ok and don't give on your dreams. Let's not also forget that even though it was hard to hear he reminded me that I needed to go back to the basics and coach myself as if I was coaching a client. Omg! At first my ego was screaming negativity from all corners of my mind. Coach myself, pish posh. But he was right I needed to go back through and get myself back on the horse. So that is what I did starting today!
My top ways to get through negative thoughts,feelings & emotions:
I hope that this blog reached you and helped you feel less alone. As always I plan on being completely honest with you all and I am grateful to be able to share my experiences. Remember nurture your relationships, take time for yourself, reach out to friends and love yourself unconditionally. We all make mistakes, have moments of weakness and sometimes think nasty things. It's ok, together we will overcome our fears and come out stronger than ever before.
Remember, those of us who cry at night become stronger in the morning. So don't judge yourself when you fall apart, in fact sometimes it's needed. The important thing is once its done get back up and keep going. It's going to be alright! <3
Thanks for stopping by. Much love and big, big hugs!
Holy freaking retrograde Batman! Anyone else having a rough time? I hear ya, it's times like these I feel I really have to be on my toes. Technology and communication go awry, old situations pop up on us, and oh boy do we get groggy. They're really are tons and tons of blogs, articles and media on all the tough things that happen at this time, but what about the good things it produces? Not many see the benefits of Mercury and how it can push us in the right direction. This Mercury Retrograde is helping us to not only take care of ourselves but to BE ourselves. It's telling us to make plans for our dreams and to get organize. The best part is it is working in part with the new moon going into Capricorn, and Capricorns mean business! So get ready to jump right into the drivers seat and hold on. You're ready!
You will often hear me talk about being your true self, the self that comes out at home or with good friends. This is actually one of my favorite topics to talk about, it is why I started my journey on this path. I want to help you find your true self. Yesterday one of my best friends came over to the sound of my call. Retrograde was hitting me hard in some areas and we discovered we both felt the same. So we cam together to work out our situations, play with hoops and plan some awesome things. But we mostly got together to figure out we both weren't as crazy as we led ourselves to believe. It was awesome. One of the many things we talked about during our few hours together was gratitude and loving who we have become. Making recognition for our thirties and what we have overcome to get here. Trials, hardships, relationships and even crazy drunken nights. It happened. But we have finally gotten to the point where we no longer care what people think of us or how they feel. That's their business.
Being yourself takes so much more than just coming to the climax of not caring. It comes from a place deep within, a place that for many keep locked away and hidden for a long time. It happens when we help others, when we show gratitude, when we are at our happiness moments. It's this sort of mood that just radiates out from us. Think back on some of the times when you were super duper happy and everything around you just sort of gravitated towards that same feeling. It's like walking down the street to your favorite song and it feels like you're in your own little music video or movie. This is one of the best thing to come out of the Retrograde, it is bringing out who we truly are and meant to become. Not only is this what the retrograde is brining us but that is what 2016 is all about. Getting out there and doing, being and feeling who we truly are. So go out there and get it! Be who you truly are meant to be.
Winter is finally upon us here in Atlanta, stepped outside yesterday and for the first time ever wanted to immediately crawl back in to my burrow. Going from 70's one day to nearly 30's the next makes me want to sleep until spring. Oh and lets not forget that our dear friend Mercury is in Retrograde yet again. Yay! hahaha just kidding, Mercury hits me hard too. Back to Atlanta, oh Atlanta a city that is still growing and still trying to enter my heart. I have always had a love/hate relationship with this place. When I first moved into the city I was so hopeful, had so many intentions of what it held for me. Now moving back into the city I have those same feelings. Atlanta really has a lot to offer and really isn't that bad.
There are so many hidden spots and new places to discover, the old places you love just get better and now we show the world our city through movies. I can't lie it does bother me a little when I see shows and media portraying us as one side of the spectrum or the other. We are either super southern or all rap stars. When it couldn't be more than wrong. This city is one of mixture, of diversity and like any other city we are a mixing pot of amazing people. While there are exceptions to the rules we are all here together and it is what makes this city so eclectic.
We have areas to fit any one of your moods, from tea houses to music venues Atlanta is great for finding something to do and somewhere to go. I often find myself walking around and just looking around and looking up. Getting away from the phone, the computer and not looking down at the ground. I trip on flat surfaces so I am often looking at the sidewalk. One of the best walks I have ever took in Atlanta was when Snowpocalypse happened a few years ago. The city was absolutely beautiful and everyone was full of smiles. I even got to see people ice skating down Peachtree street. If you aren't from here it is one of the major streets here in the city. It was amazing to watch. Everything was covered in white, people were falling all over the place and laughs were spread throughout the city. I even got to sled in Piedmont park, on a boogie board. It was awesome.
So why am I writing this blog? It started with wanting to just write a blog about this city and it's potential. But I realized that there is so much more to Atlanta than one blog entry could hold, so that's when I came up with the idea to start Tuesdays in Atlanta. That way I can showcase something wonderful about our city each week. Something more than just writing about our crazy traffic. Cause hey you might as well love the city you are in right? Plus if I had to give this city a word I would say , potential. That's what Atlanta offers. Cheers and heres to Tuesdays in Atlanta.
What does success mean to you?
Hi everyone! It's here, our very first week of 2016. I can hardly believe it myself. There are so many wonderful things already starting to blossom, and it's only the first week! This is the year! The year to make things happen. It is a time to put forth the effort to start shifting into your future. It is a time to think about your passions, hobbies and what success means to you? There are many different ways to celebrate and define success. Not one answer is right it is completely individual. Now for some fun, let's see where your passions and talents lie. Then we will put them into action, by setting up goals and making plans.
Passions and talents are a broad term for two important words and they certainly can be intimidating. Our passions are what drives us, moves us, and keeps us going when we are low. Passions are things such as dancing, reading, teaching, driving and even traveling. For me writing and helping people are two of my highest passions and that's how I came to blogging. It's not as easy to go from, "I love knitting," to living off of making scarves. Well, minus some lucky exceptions. But for most people it takes hard work, trial and error. This is part of the journey. I met a woman who owns a yarn store for knitters. She came to opening up the business because she loved to see the different colors off yarn as she wrapped them around her hand. She had always loved to knit herself but see had no desire to sell accessories. Over time she became a distributor and now lives her passion. So keep at it and believe me when you find it, nothing can stop you. So take a moment and write down all of the things that bring you joy, your passions and things that make you happy.
Goals!!!!! One of my favorite things ever. No really, I love setting up goals and then making plans to make them happen. I also am dating a Virgo so lists are a big thing in our relationship. He's wearing on me. Take your top three things you want to achieve this month at the top of a piece of paper, now underneath each item write down steps you have to take in order to get to that goal. Sorta like a ladder. You can be as creative as you want. Once you have some actions written down you need to set some accountability dates. These are days you mark in your calendar, phone or post it notes so that when they arrive you have to have a certain task completed. Give yourself a reward for accomplishing your task or if you couldn't get it done write down why. Be totally honest with yourself, figure out if your ego stepped into play or if it was just you needing to reduce the item and start smaller. Another way to stay accountable is to ask your friend to keep tabs on you and your work. Give them a copy of what you are trying to finish and by when. Together you can work out a schedule and physically have someone there to keep you on task.
One of my favorite ways to help someone find their dream or passions, it was what my coach had me write down many times in my journal. Write down your ideal day, what is your ultimate life? Write down from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. Make sure to add all the details, so in short this is not something to do in five minutes. Put on your empowering music and scribble it out. Go even further and paste pictures, draw, turn it into a vision board. Create the dream, literally. Be the dream, because you deserve it. You deserve to be happy.
"Magic only comes to those who believe in it."
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