Looks as if we all could use a detox, not the kind you drink but the kind that detoxes your spirit. We have gone through so much the past few weeks. Pain, hurt, disappointment and fear. In a time, much like the 60's, we are finding ourselves in revolutions, change and a massive shift in consciousness. As the final stretch of 2016 is upon us there are a great many of us rejoicing. 2016 brought with it a lot of heartache. We lost so many amazing people, both in personal lives as well as important figures.
2016 was the year that was detrimental to our spiritual growth. This year was one to teach us about releasing that what does not serve us, where our strengths lie, and moving on. While there we several other things 2016 took/did to us we must focus on the truth that it revealed. Most of us shared memes joking about this year and how awful it was. But even I have to admit, it can't rain all the time. (bonus points if you know where that line came from)
Today while driving home from work it suddenly dawned on me how fast this year has gone by and all that has happened in such a short amount of time. It felt as if it was yesterday when I felt as if I couldn't lose much more. I felt as if I was never going to get out. My ego, insecurities, and fears were destroying me. I was running on fumes and crossed fingers. I would look in the mirror and despise who I was becoming. I fell off track with all that I had gained from my training. I was stressed, tired, upset, and feeling very low.
The events of this year may have made me feel as if the world was ending, but they certainly have shaped a better part of my being. 2016 has shown me what I'm made of, it has taken away from me, but it has also given me that much more. I left a toxic job- proved myself worthy of the next position, then I got a new job which helped build my self esteem. The business closed down leaving me to find another job, at the same time I was dumped, had to find a new apartment, and got into a car accident. I was pushed to fight, pushed to prove my worth to myself, I was pushed to handle my situation with as much grace as I could.
Through the experiences I had this year made me a better person. If you read my blog from a few weeks ago I have become extremely liberated through this process. I did what was necessary, I found a new place and a new apartment in less than two weeks. Literally proving to myself that once I put my mind on something I can certainly achieve it. I gained confidence, wisdom and are my relationships. I became more grateful and optimistic. I know that tomorrow is always a new day.
We create goals and plan the outcome but we often forget to plan for the bumps along the way. We forget that you can't go from a to z and expect a straight line. So when these obstacles come up it causes what a friend of mine likes to call, "dramatic drama". We cry, freak out, want to break things, and victimize ourselves. Ego loves playing the victim. It's the voice saying poor me, why do these things always happen, I never get anything good. It's hard to be positive in these moments and that's okay.
We all have a shadow side to us, that dark part in our hearts that make us dive into the negativity pool when things go to shit. The trick is to acknowledge and accept this side of you without drowning. I always tell my clients, it's completely ok to join the pity party barge, but let that crap sail after a while. Give yourself a time limit and allow yourself to feel. Release all the thoughts, tears, bad words, and negativity. Now also keep in mind the bigger the issue the more time you may need to heal. But that doesn't mean you can play the victim card longer. It just means that you have to be patient with yourself. It means to take it day by day. For example; breakups. When you break up with someone you go through a period of sadness, anger and regret. You only want to remember the good times and ignore all the signs that would shown up as a red flag had you paid attention.
You see the trick with the universe/higher power is what ever you are thinking with feeling will be attracted to you. So if you are one of those who say, "Why me, this always happens to me, I have no luck," then guess what you're going to keep getting. Once you realize that you will start to learn from the situations and begin new experiences. Stop blaming others before you look at yourself, stop playing the victim role in your own life. Watch an action movie and be reminded that you are the super hero of your own life. No one else has that role, just you. It's time we all acted like it!
- talk things out with a friend
- write things out: what are the obstacles? what are ways to get through them?
- stay active
- smile, even when it's hard
- start writing out things you're grateful for
- what parts were your doing and what were out of your control
- be accountable for your actions
- don't dwell...on anything
- know it's okay to fall apart at times
- write down what you'll gain from the experience
- try something new
- go for a drive and listen to your favorite happy playlist
- try and make someone else's day brighter
- remember who you are
- things don't have to be over to start again
- remember it's never to late
- start a new book
- re-read an old favorite
- start a project that will inspirer you
- plan for a daring adventure
- remember all the dreams you had before the obstacle came up
- wake up each day and say three things that you are grateful for
- before going to bed tell yourself three awesome things you did that day
- love yourself unconditionally