Forgiveness is one of the most important steps in self development. It is also one of the hardest things to learn to do. We as humans are taught judgement, blame and projection. Not necessarily by intention, but mainly by the world around us. We are not just judging others but oureselves as well. Most of us are so critical of our own being and way we are that we ignore the positive things. Have you ever felt gulity for being you? Really think about that. Have you ever tried to apologize to someone for being emotional, goofy, weird, extroverted, etc.? Spend half the night tossing and turning in your sleep thinking of everything you should say just in case you have to justify yourself? It's all relevant.
I used to and still sometimes feel so guilty for being the way that I am. Spending or practically wasting time trying to change who I am. Negatively trying to change who I was or try and create a persona. Thinking that's how I get people to love me. Very backwards thinking.
The first step of learning how to forgive starts with the very simple thing of loving yourself. When one loves them selves they begin the practice of acceptance, which goes hand in hand with forgiveness. Often we humans search for love and acceptance from outside, when it actually starts with the inside.
So how to practice forgiveness. As it begins with you start by saying something to yourself like, "I forgive myself for the mistakes I created yesterday. I move forward in my present with love, I look forward to tomorrow and I'm grateful for everyday and all the lessons I've learned." Another way that I have used many times, write three letters to yourself. Handwritten, doesn't have to be long. One to your younger self, one to your present self and one to your future self. These letters should include things such as; love, blessings, advice and of course forgiveness. Mail them out to yourself at different times. By doing this you're not only going to get a pice of actual mail, but by writing to yourself you are able to step outside yourself and realize how far you've come.
What are some of the ways you practice forgiveness?