It sometimes is hard to believe, just a few short years ago I was having one of the biggest break downs of my life. At the fresh end of my 26th year mark I went through one of the hardest lessons of my youth. After leaving two failed relationships I met, what I thought was going to be the person to change my life. Well he did, just not the way I expected or wanted. It was an extremely rushed relationship, within 6 months we were living together and whiten 8 we were engaged. He catered to my every insecurity, reassuring all my fears, and the worst part, I catered to most of his. I knew the closer we got to the wedding date the more I knew I should have gotten out. But I still stayed, and I still pretended I was ok.
I had no proper job, and living off of ramen, drugs and alcohol. Our days were filled with struggle and hangovers, and our nights were filled with massive bar tabs, fighting and abuse. Now the hard part of this was finding out I was being drugged, I was being slipped pills and hard drugs in my drinks. This was so I would pass out for hours and sometimes a couple of days, and he could leave without me knowing. While I can't put all the blame on another person, I still stayed and at this point felt so worthless I actually believed I enjoyed that lifestyle. I thought it made me interesting. Boy was I wrong!
Then four months before our wedding was supposed to take place, I found out that he was not who he said he was, I was conned. He took my savings, cards and took off. I was left with nothing but my mattress and some of my personal items. With the help of my family and friends I was moved to an apartment and the process began. Now I can go on and on about the next few years of healing, but I save that for another time.
My mom and best friend throughout the next couple of years encouraged me to seek out professional help. I was stubborn at first but knew they were right. I knew I didn't want to go to a psychiatrist because I was afraid of being put on medications. I wanted to heal, to rid myself of the pain that I felt inside, I didn't want to mask it with chemicals and talk about my feelings. I wanted to work through what I was going and feeling. That's when I found a life coach.
In just one year my life was turned around completely. He helped me find a job, get back on my feet, create goals and more. After two years I was so far progressed that I didn't need to go every week. Through coaching I had found my calling, motivating others. This coach helped me to find my dreams, passions and goals in life. I knew I wanted to help others find and make their dreams come true.
Becoming a coach and healer
I saved up enough money and decided to study life coaching. I knew I wanted to help people in their healing process. I just didn't have the structure and necessary know how. I must admit I was so excited to start the course I went out and bought pretty pens, a Hobbit notebook and brand new usb. Yeah! I finished a year long course in six months! It was so much fun, I even got to give a friend a coaching session for my final.
On top of learning about life coaching I also decided to take a course in blogging. I wanted to star off one of my goals and dreams, being a blogger, which would get me closer to my biggest dream of all...being a writer! Shortly after these course were coming to a close, I knew I wanted a bit more. It felt as if there was something more to add to my education. That's when I found out about becoming a health coach, with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.
I had heard about the school through internet research, blogs, and bumping into people who had gone to the school themselves. I was apprehensive at first, the whole going back to school thing was a bit nerve racking. I came across an ambassador who spoke with me for about a month, she really encouraged me and helped make the transition much smoother. When I signed up I had no reservations, guilt or remorse. I am super excited to say I have never been happier with my decision.
Health coaching has added so much not only to my coaching practice but to my life as well. Thats one of the best parts about the program. It helps you to enrich your life and jumpstart your career. Within the next couple of months I will be graduating from this amazing place, man I can't believe how fast time flies! To be honest I am having so much fun I don't want it to end.
Health Coaching is beyond amazing, it encompasses so much more than just diet and nutrition. If you ever have any questions about Health coaching, the school or changing your career and life, please don't hesitate to send me a message. I would be more than happy to chat.
Ways to tell if you're ready for coaching
Are you stuck or feel lost
Feel as if you don't have any time
Do you make goals but fail to follow through
Need an accountability partner
Trying to lose weight, exercise more, eat healthier
Finding your purpose
Developing your talents and gifts
Feel drained all the time, no energy
Try to mask or hid emotions
Dating and Relationship issues
Finding Self Love!
10 quick coaching tips!
Breath: The most important thing we all forget. Just breath
Make a list of all the amazing things in your life
Take yourself on dates
Leave toxic relationships, both personal and professional, behind and move on
Step outside of your comfort zone and experience an adventure
Write down a list of all the things you're good at and find a way to use them
Exercise at least two times a week, even just a walk.
I'm about to host another full moon ceremony in a couple of weeks, my second one at the center where I work. I get a lot of people ask what's the best thing to do durning a full moon. I'm sure a lot of us have fallen fatal to blaming it when things go crazy.
I've noticed more and more of how I'm truly connected to the moon. The moon in all her glory is powerful every night of be week. The picture above will help you to know which night is the best for what spell. 😊
In today's society we are more likely to look at the world through a piece of technology instead of just opening our eyes. I am just as guilty of this, doing most of my school and work form my phone and laptop. We are constantly shown drive thru businesses, mobile apps, online shopping, while all convenient, we our limiting our interaction with people. To add to this human interactions get bogged down by selfishness, entitlement, or ego filled hierarchy. I have witness countless occasions where customers treat employees horribly because they aren't getting instant gratification. There has been many, many times when my boyfriend and I will be standing in line, watching the horrible display of negative energy and projection. We make it a point to be absolutely as nice as we possibly can to the person with whom the projection was towards. This is why I am happy to be nice!
The world needs nice, it needs more people to be compassionate and understanding. When was the last time you asked the barista at Starbucks how their day was and actually meant it? What about giving a stranger a compliment without expecting something back from them. I have noticed more and more that we are starving for connection, communication and interaction with each other. With all the shiny new things out there and everyone staring at screens,televisions or who knows what else we look at, human interaction is getting less and less. This can make general kindness horribly mistaken. Some consider those who are kind to be weak, some mistake it for flirting, and some just abuse those who are kind to them. It is up to us to break this cycle.
I can remember hearing most of my life, being honest can get you into trouble, you have to be a bitch to get ahead, and even just plain you are way to nice. As if there's anything wrong with that. I like being nice, I like helping others have a better day. It doesn't mean I'm without faults or mistakes, we are all here to learn from this life. I have recently begun a practice and observation of being genuinely kind/nice to others and watching their actions. It is so rewarding to see a smile come from kind words. I have seen days brighten, smiles widen, and friends blossoming all from just one kind word.
It has been a long journey for me on the path to self love. Self doubt, insecurities, self worth, and low self respect. A constant battle of who I was and where I wanted to be. I used to think it was glamorous to be the troubled young woman. Mixed this with a shit ton of alcohol and you've got a case of the ifs. "If I was pretty enough, if I was thinner, If I had this job...I'd be happier...I would have that guy." It wasn't until I hit the lowest point of my life that I realized, something has got to change, like right now! It was at that moment I knew I had to choose me.
Flash forward a few years to now. While I still have battles with that inner goblin called the ego, I am happier, healthier and way more livelier. That's why I wanted to share it with you. Sometimes it's hard to start on your own, things seem way less overwhelming when you know someone else has gone through it. That's why there are so many self help/healing books out there, (my favorite section in the book store, I'm kinda addicted.) Healers wanna help and we speak from experience so you never have to feel alone.
It's time to chose the most important person in your life, you. An amazing, wonderful spirit on this planet. You have every right to make yourself the number person in your life. Your feelings, thoughts and happiness are yours and yours alone. So what's next?
If you're anything like me you'll probably walk around your apartment bursting with ideas and contradicting your self at the same time. Totally cool. Get out your journal, laptop, notebook and create a page called, My self love ideas. (sounds dirty huh? hehe) As a thought pops into your head write it down on this page and continue your brainstorming process, we will organize in a minute. Next turn on some tunes and dance around, round one done!
After your little dance party, come back to your journal. Time to organize your thoughts. On the top of a blank page write this promise to yourself, "I solemnly swear that I will do what ever it takes to be happy." Feel free to edit to make it your own too, the more it's catered to your personality the better. Now break up your ideas into three sections; Self dates, Me time, and Your "it's going to be ok" moments.
The first section Self dates, are dates you take yourself on once or twice a week. Self dates can include places, classes, outings, a picnic in the park, etc. Things you really want to go to, do and see. It's time to get to know yourself, double dare you to step outside your comfort zone. Find your adventurous side. Put these dates in your phone, set reminders and record the juicy details in your journal.
The second section, Me time, are going to be all the things you need private time for, reading, exercising, manicure, or even just sitting on the couch and catching up on your favorite show. These are the times you will take for yourself to learn to be patient with yourself. These you want to do multiple times a week.
The final section, are the things you do when you've had a rough day, week or just need to take a moment. These are your "get out of jail free card" items. These help you learn to accept yourself in the worst occasions. To be able to take a moment but not wallow can be very healing. They also can be double edged swords, so be careful and really discerning when adding these. If you think one should be scratched, chances are you're right. Don't do anything that will keep you upset.
Once you have your plan, put it into action. Set a start date and commit to it. You've got this, its a tiny step on the road to discovery. We are all in this together. Let me know how it goes. Hugs dreamers <3
Things to try this month
Go to the movies yourself
Take yourself out to lunch
Try that dance class you've been wondering about
Go to the bookstore and wander through the shelves in search for your next adventure
Swimming mermaid style
Floating down a river
Shorts and heels
Explore your city or town and take pictures
Do something touristy
Have a best friend day date
Go to a thrift store and find your next bathing suit
Invite a friend to enjoy a smoothie and people watch
Sit by the pool and read your new book
Meditate in the park
Try an outside yoga class
Go to the drive in
Dance in your fancy underwear around your house
Go star gazing
Dance in the rain
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