Can you believe this year is pretty much over?! I mean holy cow, 2016! I can remember back when I was in grade school, calculating how old I would be and now here I am heading right into that same year. OMG! Let me pause for a moment and adjust to the fact that my 32nd birthday is right around the corner, not to mention the Mercury retrograde right before it. But that's a post for another time.
Let's talk about 2016, putting plans into action and about our resolutions. 2016 is a major year for us, while 2015 was the year of letting go, change and tough lessons, it also prepared us for the major push we are about to have. The New Year is for putting our plans into action, getting our shit together and becoming stronger than ever before. Whoah, right?! I have been paying attention to all the signs, getting ready to jump on my A game. I know you are too, let's kick some ass!
When the New Year hits we will get a push to go for our passions and find what we love. These can, and most of the time will, bring us to what we are mean to do in life. I wouldn't be where I am now if it weren't for the experiences in my past. Leaving and changing jobs, relationships, friendships, life, all of it. I've walked a long road to get where I am and I know I still have way more road to cover before the end. So it's time to think, really think of what makes you happy. Need some ideas? Dedicate a page in your journal and label it "Passion Page". Write down things that you love to do, things that make you happy, compliments, strengths and desires.
Now highlight the things that stand out to you the most, do you see a trend, does something scream, "I'm over here!"? Now take another page and write about it. What does it say to you, how does it make you feel? Time to start planning and putting things into action. Is one of your biggest dreams to live and work in the big city? Write down the things that you would have to achieve that. Then make yourself a realistic timeline to follow. *Side note, only continue if you are truly ready to make these changes. Planning and putting things into action need to be clear, concise and honest. Think things through and talk it out with supportive people.* This timeline is what will help you keep track of where you are, how far you've come, goals achieved and what's left to accomplished. It can also help keep you accountable, but if your like me and need someone to keep you accountable ask a friend to help out. Make a plan for 1-6 months first, put down your tasks by day, week and month. Give yourself rewards for each goal accomplished and then one major and final reward when you have achieved your goal. Set up reminders in your phone, put up post its, what ever you need to do to stay on track.
Now let's talk about our resolutions. On some level we all make them each year. More than half of us no matter how good our intentions, we fall off the wagon. So how do we make resolutions that stick:
Make them realistic: Want to lose weight in the coming year? Start small don't put unrealistic pressure on yourself. Small steps to big success. Often we find ourselves in a trap of instant gratification, not really living in the moment and enjoying the journey. Don't get me wrong, I'm trying to lose weight and sometimes it feels as if the process is crawling. But don't give up and be patient. If you want to work out five days a week, start off with two and every two weeks increase a day until you get to five.
Make them meaningful: Getting a boyfriend in the New Year, is not a meaningful resolution and often it leads to disappointment. Instead, make a resolution to learn to love yourself and be satisfied with where you are. We get worked up when we promise ourselves unrealistic ideas. This is our ego trying to prove that we are not good enough, so turn it around and prove your ego wrong. Practice self love and compassion. Be gentle on yourself and get to know who you really are.
Make them fun: Make time to include the fun stuff in life. Plan to take a mini break, self dates, road trips with friends, go to classes you've always wanted to. Take time to appreciate the moments, big and small. Make time to leave social media for a while and enjoy others company. Start a conversation, buy someone's coffee, or where a silly hat while your driving. Silly resolutions are some of my favorites.
Make them for others: Resolutions aren't always for ourselves, they can be for others too. Volunteer, walk shelter dogs, spend time at a nursing home, soup kitchen, something you do for someone else without wanting recognition or reward. Pay it forward. Help a friend, a neighbor, co worker, someone who you may not even know. Make a resolution to be kinder, more compassionate and more understanding.
Make them powerful: This year make your resolutions to help change and better your life. Go back to school, change jobs, leave a toxic relationship, or start your own business. Resolutions that make us feel empowered, better, and superhumanly, are ones that last a lifetime. They usually are the ones we forget to put down each year. Most of us think of our own needs last, well no more, not this New Years. Go out and get your life.
So my dears, now comes the time to put your dreams and resolutions into action. Think about the things that make you the happiness. Don't apologize for wanting things, don't regret decisions and don't ever get down on yourself. You are a bright star and you are meant to shine. Together we all shine to make the night sky sparkle. How will you make 2016 sparkle? What are some of your resolutions and what is your plan on making them stick?
As I was bending down into a twisty yoga pose earlier, it suddenly dawned on me, that the year was coming to a close and what that meant to me. 2015 has been such a definitive and changing year. It was the year we ridded our selves of that which doesn't serve us or our wellbeing. We left toxic jobs, relationships, took leaps, jumps and even ran from situations that didn't give us purpose. I myself went through many changes this past year and I am ready to hit 2016 with full force.
2015 pushed us into a massive shift, we radically dove into an accession of personal power. Many of us who had a long standing relationship with insecurities, left them behind to find a new found confidence. We began to speak our truth, find connections and forgive those that we needed to let go. 2016 is going to be the year of productiveness, doing, and putting things in place to ensure our futures. I can't begin to express the excitement I have for the new year. Books, packages and growing my business even more. Bringing my services to more and more people everyday!
But the new year isn't all about professional growth, we are going to go into a major year of, "getting our life", as one of my besties says. We will start to explore our dreams and passions more, go on more adventures and begin to discover ourselves. Which as many know, this is one of my favorite things ever! From the time I was in my mid twenties I have absolutely loved diving into a new motivational book, getting new tips and tricks to bring happiness to my life. I am currently re-reading the very first one that started the journey for me, Add more Ing to your life: A Hip Guide to Happiness By Gabrielle Bernstein. I highly recommend this book, I have kept it close to my heart for a very long time.
So the next couple of weeks as we head into the new year, start thinking about what you want to pursue in the new year. I know what my list is and I am ready to do my part. Keep a look out for more updates, news and goodies. Have a wonderful Holiday and if I don't speak to you till the new year, have a wonderful time bringing it in.
Hi all! I truly hope your December is going really well. It's been super busy here at The Bexster's base. I'm so excited to bring in this new year with a major bang.
I am working on so many wonderful things to ring in 2016 and make it the best year yet. From revamping my blog, creating some amazing products even working on some life changing type things.
I wanted to give out a quick hello and let everyone know I'm not going anywhere. My blogs may be a bit spaced out but it's all in good reason. I hope to see you in the coming new year and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season.
I have been working on being more mindful and living in the moment lately. It's super easy to give into fear which let feelings of guilt and judgement creep up. I could feel myself starting to slip back into anxiety of future tripping. Future tripping is when we constantly worry about tomorrow and forget to live today. Have you ever missed out on a conversation because you were thinking about your to do list? Have you ever stayed awake in your bed, not able to fall asleep because your thinking of all the things that you have to do the next day? These are examples of future tripping. So how do we practice mindfulness and being more in the moment?
"Mindfulness is gained through becoming more aware and understanding, less judging and more compassion."
Mindfulness is being fully present in the moment, living in the "now". Which to some of us can be really tough. With jobs, media, traffic, bills, well let's be real...life.
We are bombarded with so much throughout the day that it is getting harder and harder to know what to believe anymore. So how are we supposed to learn to live in the moment? It is a lot easier than you might think, I promise. First off, start paying attention to what you are doing rather than thinking of what you are going to do next.
When we start to live in the moment we are not focusing on our drama, other peoples drama, or the negativity that often tries to suck us in. We are being fully present. But what does all this really mean? The biggest part to understand is we have to let go. Let go of guilt, judgement, pressure, the what if's, all of it. Just like the Frozen song, "Let it go, can't hold it back any more." Once we let go of trying to control every little thing, we are slowly giving more room for the more important things in life.
Next, start enjoying the little things, a nice day, a wave, or a small achievement. Living in the moment really doesn't have to be a YOLO style experience, it can honestly be as simple as enjoying a cup of tea on your porch, or cuddling with your cat for a few minutes. Start small, enjoy the few moments in the morning before the house wakes up. Write down moments where you were fully in the moment, being present and enjoying everything around you. Describe it in full detail, what were the sights, smells, sounds and who was with you or if you were by your self.
Happy Monday everyone! It is an absolutely gorgeous day here in Atlanta, sitting out on the porch with all my happy things around me, including my awesome oracle deck. Many of you have seen my pictures of my cards, they pop up when I do yoga, meditation, spiritual work and when giving readings to others. I absolutely love my oracle cards. Oracle cards are a wonderful tool to use for guidance, inspiration and direction. Simpler than tarot, they are more helping than descriptive, which is one of the many reasons why I love using them. I often will do a daily spread two to three times a week to keep me on track or to get a clearer message from my intuition. You can use them to answer a question, check your place on your journey and you can use them to help in manifestation work.
Intuition, something that many of us take for granted. For many have chosen to ignore that inner voice and listen to their ego or the ego of others. Your intuition is one of the greatest gifts we as humans could possibly posses. It is a connection to our higher power, the universe and even to our own souls. It is that voice that helps us when we are down telling us to get back up, it is the voice that lets us know when something feels right and when it feels wrong, it is the part of us that communicates with our spiritual side. Have you ever been driving and have a moment when "something" tells you to stop at the yellow light and then someone runs it right after you stopped and gets in an accident? That's your intuition guiding you. Have you ever been nervous to go out to a gathering, trying to think of excuses as to why you "can't" go? But something, deep down inside of you says "just do it, just go, it will be good for you," and you end up not only having a great time but meet a new friend, run into an old one or even meet your significant other. These are all just a few examples of how your intuition interjects into our lives. But more on that later.
So how do you use your intuition with the oracle cards? Every deck comes with a description book and while I do recommend reading it, I also recommend that you just use it for reference and use your inner guide to tell you what the cards are saying. The more you practice the easier it gets, take notes and write down your reading after you give or do one. This way you will start to trust yourself and get more and more messages. This leads into a lot of the work that I do, intuition and magic is a big part of my life. Being an empath I am able to feel and read people through energy, and I have used oracle cards many times to help me decided if my intuition is on point or if my ego is taking place. Try them out, or better yet get a reading and see how much fun it can be.
Hi everyone! Happy December. I hope I find you well and bright. After a nice little break from the city and electronics, I am ready and raring to go. Winter time always gets me in a high vibe mood, it is the time to look at all we have accomplished up till now. I must say 2015 was a big year for me, hopefully same for you, there was just something about this year that lit a fire under my butt and got me going. I got a lot accomplished and I have even more motivation to go for my dreams by starting 2016 with a bang. I left a toxic environment, moved back to the city, graduated from The Institute for Integrative nutrition, and I decided to become my own boss. All wins and all big decisions for me. Each bringing a new bag of life lessons into my life.
But back to December...my absolute favorite time of the year. While I love fall/autumn with all its splendor of colors and pumpkin spices, I am in love with Christmas time. The music, movies, weather, sounds, smells and being with the ones you care about. The holidays just make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. It is so nice to get together for the holidays, spending time with friends and family. .I have already decorated our apartment to the nines, the boyfriend calls it the North Pole, (which makes me so proud). I really must have been a Christmas elf in a past life.
Christmas is a time to spread joy, happiness and good cheer to those around us. It seems more and more we need this in the world. It saddens me so much to see the hatred being shared through social media. From the mass shootings to the bullying, we spend more time focusing on the negative that it seems that's all there is. We need so much more compassion, love, understanding and people willing to lend a helping hand when they we can. We need more healers, listening ears, optimistic and gratitude. I saw two things the other day that moved me to tears: 1) There is a website where youth members of the LBGTQ community, who have been disowned or kicked out of their families, can find a family to visit for the holidays. People were opening there homes during Thanksgiving and now for Christmas to give these youngsters a place to come home to. Even now, in the middle of a cafe I am watering up. 2) A family who opens there home every Thanksgiving to let people who are homeless, don't have homes to go to, or just don't want to be alone for the holidays have a place to come to and food to eat. How awesome is that? Makes me happy to say that I am volunteering this weekend, I want to help heal the world, but I need to start in Atlanta.
One of my favorite things during this holiday time is to seek out the special moments most don't see. Like an older couple snuggling up together while walking, a little kid staring at a giant tree in the square, walking through the city while the listening to Christmas music (seeing faces, pretty places), the decorations everywhere, and hot chocolate (I looooooveeee hot chocolate). Last night I noticed while working at my desk how many people facing our apartment have opened their blinds to see our tree. I honestly thing I may be the biggest Christmas fan in our apt complex. Not many people have decorated and I wrapped our entire front door to look like a present. One moment in particular stars in mind, a long couple across the way were snuggled up together and staring up at our tree and lights in the window. It was Hallmark channel perfect, the music was playing "Baby, it's cold outside," and I couldn't help but giggle at the romance of the situation. tee hee
It is easy during this time to get stressed out over the little things, shopping malls, Christmas lists, seeing everyone, budgeting and lets not forget all the amazing, sugary goodness that influxes our way. I totally get it ladies, hot chocolate and christmas cookies are my hips and butts bff's. But we can prevail, we can make it through this time and smile as we go through it. Remember Christmas is not about the latest gadget or biggest fad. Christmas is a time to spend with the ones you love, this also includes yourself. See what I did there? You know I had to throw some self love into the mix. But it is true, we need to remember to take care of ourselves. Spend some time doing something calming, relaxing and personal to you. Remember it is ok to indulge once in a while, but don't beat your self up because of it. Just get back up in the saddle and continue on your journey. Write in your journal, practice gratitude and take yourself on a Christmassy self date.
Ideas for Christmas fun dates (personal, friends or romantic):
visit lights landscapes in parks and gardens
light some candles, grab your favorite book and read while the tree is lit and the music plays.
talk a walk through the town or city admiring the sights
gather with friends and have a Christmas gathering, bonus if it is ugly sweater themed
don't like going to the mall? no problem try an online shopping party. Gather some of your friends and hang out while you guys shop for gifts on your laptops. All in the comfort of your home.
Sing Christmas songs
Grab your bestie and go take selfies in ball gowns
build snowmen when you can
Bundle up and sip hot chocolate on your porch
read in front of a fireplace
Make some Christmas crafts
Disconnection from everything, what I did for Thanksgiving.
So I know I have already practically written a novel out of this blog I wanted to write about what happened while I was away for Thanksgiving. I went out to my family's farm which is about two hours east of Atlanta, straight out in the middle of nowhere. There is no cell service, no civilization, no street lights and where I was staying no internet. At first I got all nervous, "omg, I won't be able to blog, check social media, post selfies (I had to throw that in) and no city noise. It is weird to say these things when I spent most of my childhood growing up there, but I must admit I am a city girl.
As much as I do love the city, I also really love the woods, especially during fall. Our farm has some of the prettiest seasons and fall being the best. Acres and acres of tress, land and animals. I was complete able to be my witchy self and get back in touch with nature. I had a wonderful time being slightly discounted from everything, we have modern luxuries at the main house, so I was able to communicate with the boyfriend. It was awesome not continuously checking my phone or laptop for connection to the outside world. Not gonna lie, it felt good to get away and refresh. Being in nature and connecting with the world about me.
This Thanksgiving marked my one year anniversary of becoming a vegetarian. While I still got some teasing from the father it was an accomplishment I am extremely proud of. Thankfully I was always a fan of the sides more the the main courses anyways. It was great sitting around the table with family and sharing stories.
How was your Thanksgiving? Did you get to relax, did you have to work, did you spend a few minutes being grateful? Now that I am back in the city and catching up I want to know how everyone's doing.
Hi there, I'm Bex! Nature Lover Cottage Witch Magic Worker Hufflepuff Pukwudgie Pink Roses Bubble Baths Stary Nights Full Moons Tea Lover Water Bearer Snow White Wanderer