I get it, we live in a high tech world. We have instant gratification at our fingertips and instant access to each others worlds. Letting people see our daily tasks can be either a positive or negative experience. We can share in adventures and joys of our lives. But sadly there is a dark side to these things that have become part of our daily rituals. The dark side of being able to see into each others worlds is the constant judgement we place ourselves in. When you post a selfie how does it make you feel to get a life? How does it feel if no one liked it? This is the part that trickles over to our daily lives.
We fear rejection, get rewarded for poor behavior, fear judgement of how we look and act, and the worst part is is causes us to judge ourselves. When I was in my twenties I would spend hours putting on fake photo shoots. I would dress in different outfits, change makeup, and even have sets put up. At the time I was extremely insecure and desperate for reassurance. I became obsessed with the attention. This was when social media was still pretty but I would post these pictures up and constant check my stats. I wanted to to see how many viewed them, liked them and commented. I walked around with fear, guilt and envy. I would jealously look at other women and compare myself to them. It wasn't a good time in my life. But over time I learned where I needed to grow and heal.
We thirst for knowledge but often we get miss lead. We long for attention but seek it from the wrong source. When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and said, "Damn girl you fine!" ? And I'm talking about no makeup, just woke up, hair a mess, looking in the mirror. When was the last time you felt confident enough to say no, to tell the truth, to let go? When was the last time you did something with out fear of what others would think? If it's been a while then you know it's time to practice.
We become concerned with what others think because we lack the love within ourselves. We lost track of what is truly important to our hearts. If you think you are enough for someone it's because you believe you aren't enough for someone. This is the is why I said there can be a dark side to that instant gratification lifestyle. Don't get me wrong if you follow me on instagram you know I post selfies all the time. Infant I encourage you to take as many selfies as you can. But do it in the light of shining from within. Show your happiness, show your inner light. Post without expectations of what others think. Dare to take a no pose, no filter, no make selfie and see how you feel.
Grab your journal, notebook or piece of paper. Answer these next few questions truthfully. (even if it makes you cringe)
"Magic only comes to those who believe in it."
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