Being stuck and starting over multiple times
When things go haywire we feel as if we are lost in the deepest, darkest parts of the forest. I can remember the a ha moment when I gave my self permission to start over multiple times. I was turning 30 and leaving my young adult hood behind. I remember thinking of how different I was going to be and how much growth I was going to have. Even if it was overnight. Let me tell you, I was sooooooo wrong. So far the past three years of my 30's has been a rollercoaster ride of holy shit. The only difference is my reactions and attitudes have gotten more chill.
I realized the past few years that I was always going to have times where I am going to be "stuck", in my life. I decided that it was all part of building new chapters in my life. Being stuck just means we have come to a turning point in our lives. I can look back the past 12 years and see every single time I was "stuck" something amazing came afterwards. The more times you are stuck the more times you are growing. It is a time of planning, releasing, and growth. It is a time to move forward and show yourself how strong you are. It is the chance to be your own hero. Progress does not come easy. To get to where you are going you will always have obstacles in your way. You will always have a period of time where you feel completely hopeless. It is hard to keep your faith when your heart is broken, you have no money or you don't want to be where you are. But it is at these very moments we can find the most clarity.
You are a warrior!
When you feel stuck spend some time assessing the situation. Work through the painful emotions and honor how you feel. Don't feel guilty for eating that ice cream and watching yet another chick flick on netflix. It is a process. Remember it is not a bad life just a bad day, (month, week, etc). The important thing is that we must always be grateful for the things that we do have. Air, shelter, food, friends, family,, our bodies, our hearts, etc. Don't worry if someone tells you to get over something. Don't listen to someone if they are passing judgement on what job you have. If it is paying your bills and affording you to reach for you goals...get it! You have to do what you need to, so that you can survive and grow.
Overtime you will start to understand that starting over is one of the greatest things in the world. It is that second chance at a new perspective. It is a second chance at a new chapter in your life. look at it as a time to let go of something that no longer works for you and a chance to find the thing that does. You can make your life amazing with only a little bit of courage, kindness, and willingness to let go. Don't force yourself to move on, instead work through your struggle to come out the other side. Fight your way through the woods.
Ways to get through a "stuck" phase
- Take yourself out on a tea date and journal
- Go to the bookstore and grab the first self help book that catches your eye (and read it)
- Talk to friends
- Hold yourself accountable for your actions and forgive others for theirs
- Give yourself time to heal first before moving on
- Get active
- Read your favorite story
- Focus on the solutions not the problems
- Stay brave