The past couple of months have been... rough, for lack of a better term. I have been struggling with trying to keep up with all that I want to do and the need for crawling in my blankets and sleeping for the next few months. While my days are slowly getting better and my mood is improving more and more. I still can't help to think that there are so many people that are just as stuck as me.
Most of what we read online is a personified version of our best self. We try to make ourselves sound as if outlives are perfect. But life is just the opposite. Life is messy, bumpy, dramatic, hard , and extremely upsetting. But it doesn't always have to be a bad things. We have to go through the struggle right? We have to tough it out through the bad so that we enjoy the good? So how do we go through it without loosing our soul? Create our stories!
:I recently started to re watch the show Once upon a time. I have forgotten how much I loved that show. Getting to watch the adult version of my favorite fairy tales...yes please! The deeper I get into the show the more I realize the ways that fairy tales can help in our own lives. We are born into certain families, go through child hood growth, set off on our big adventure, hit snags, sadness, happiness and responsibilities. Then we find love. We find the friends that help us along the way, make peace with our parents, and find a companion to share in the joys of life. Here's the deal, we all have to deal with "real life" so why should we have to conform in making it boring?
Yes, we have to pay our bills, we have to work our jobs, take care of the leaky faucets and do things that piss us off. We have to go through heartbreak and disappointment. We have amazing days and terrible days. We get angry, sad, happy, ecstatic, and egotistical. We fail and make mistakes. All these things are what makes our story so interesting. It is what shapes us into the people we were meant to be. It is what helps us strive to achieve our goals. If we didn't have to struggle we wouldn't learn about our selves.
Grab your journal or laptop:
- First you're going to write your character. Describe yourself, looks, personality, strengths and weakness. Where did you grow up? What was your upbringing like?
- Next you're going to set the scene: What is your present situation? Where are we meeting you in this story? What is your surroundings like?
- Setting your dreams/goals: What is it that you want most in life? What dreams do you have that nothing will stop you from achieving them?
- Choosing your supporting characters: Who are the villains? (this can be job/person/ego/situation, etc) Who/what is the antagonist? Who are the protagonists? Who is your support team, army, friends, etc?
- Turn your struggles into your obstacles and conflict: Loose a job? In debt? Have to present a project? Dealing with negativity from others? How would these things present themselves in a fairy tale? Are they dragons, monsters, evil knights or just a stop along the way?
- Along the journey: Write out the things, places, and people that help you along the way. Who gave you good advice? What turn did you take that lead to something amazingly unexpected? Help someone out and received gratitude?
- Getting to your goal or/and dreams: Keep writing your story until you get to your goal. Spend time everyday adding to it day by day. Then go back, read and reflect on your adventure. See how far you've come and how much you've grown.
- Jobs that pay the bills
- Heart break
- Being fired
- Finding a new job
- Working for way less than you're worth
- Dealing with customer service (either on the phone or in a job)
- Car troubles
- Living situations
- Sad days
- Being broke
- Bad drivers
- When life gets hard
- Not getting what we want
Amazing things that we all have (even when times are hard):
- Good Friends
- Food on the table
- Paying our bills
- Stolen glances
- Secret Moments
- New loves
- Old loves
- Ridding with the windows down
- Good music
- Loving ourselves
- Helping someone else
- Happy moments
- Fuzzy robes
- Lazy days off
- Road trips
- Sleeping in
- Staying up late
- Good Books
- Long walks on a beautiful day